A couple of questions

People ask a range of questions, some are typical and some are a bit more unusual.

A couple of common questions are:

• Can I just watch?
• Do I have to fuck or get fucked?

The short answer is 'No' to both of these - but here are specific responses to these questions:

Received : Tuesday 8 May 2007 01:50

Hi there, forgive me if I am repeating what you must hear 1000 times but I read the profile and love the sound of the meets. The problem is I am new to the scene and have never even seen an orgy let alone taken part. What are the rules in terms of some one coming along and not taking part the first time? I would love to get involved so any advice would be really appreciated. xxM

Sent : Tuesday 8 May 2007 18:40

Hi, thanks for your message. Guys who come would be expected to want to take part and get involved. The guys who throw themselves into it are the ones who have the best time. I get too many applications, and have to turn too many down, to afford to invite someone who doesn`t want to take part. Sorry. Your message would indicate that you probably wouldn`t enjoy it - you`ve got to walk before you run (as they say!)

Received : Friday 13 July 2007 14:07

i really love sucking cock, but dont really get fucked/ fuck often, would that rule me out of ur orgy?

Sent : Friday 13 July 2007 19:54

Hi - you don`t have to fuck, and not everyone does (I don`t really monitor!). I just ask that everyone gets involved. Let me know if you want to come. Cheers

Received : Sunday 15 July 2007 00:36

sounds cool, will have to get back when ive got my work schedule

You'll never guess

If someone is suitable for the orgy, I send them a message with some details and request an email address if they are interested.

My best estimate is that 75% of guys respond with an email address and so get onto the long list.

Once i send the invite, the response rate to that is about 50%. I mark profiles who have not responded to the initial message or the invite with an unhappy face, so that I can keep track if someone asks again. (There are currently 427 profiles marked like this!).

I don't mind people not responding. I have to say no to alot of profiles, so I'm happy when I get a no from someone else. I prefer enthusiastic attendance to forced participation!

I've given up trying to predict who will respond to the message or invite and who will not. A profile of an exceptionally handsome guy will say yes and a profile which I was unsure about will say no.
Guys who have messaged me before the invites are sent, saying how excited they are about coming, will not respond and guys who are a bit muted in their communications will respond.

However, looking back at some of the profiles which have not responded, I am sometimes surprised - firstly, that I said yes in the first place and secondly that they didn't jump at the chance!

Orgy. Islington orgy

Those who know me a bit will know that I don't spend many weekends in London.

I am here this weekend though - due to the ridiculous rain around the country. A friend of mine drove from Reading to Birmingham on Friday - left at mid-day and arrived at 8.00pm!!

So, I have done touristy things in London - zoo, museum, gallery. And of course - clubbing in the evening.
The dilemma - I hook up with someone and have a bit of fun (including some willy fun - it was a club in Kings Cross!). Nice guy. Do I say to them, "Hey, I have a profile - islingtonorgy. Come along!"?

I have been tempted a couple of times in the past, but I have never told anyone that I run this orgy. It would just sound too tragic. "My profile name is orgy ... islingtonorgy."

It's never a good idea to say these things when you've had a couple of drinks. I've fallen into the texting trap after a night out. It seems like a good idea at the time, but end up mortified in the morning.

But, now it is morning - I wish I'd said something. If you're reading this, I'm the one you said had massive balls (I thought he said magic). Come along!! For the benefit of readers, I also have a massive cock :)

I walked back from Kings Cross to Islington. I think it was the cruisiest walk home I've ever had. 90% in my own head, I'm sure. But one guy asked me if I thought his friend was good looking. Another asked if I had a Rizla (no) and another asked if I had a mobile phone battery!!

40 years since the legalisation of homosexuality, and now it's everywhere. Hurrah.