No response

Received : Tuesday 26 June 2007 00:12
hey guys
think ive emailed u before but cant remember your reply.
any spaces left in your orgy for me and my boyf?
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Sent : Tuesday 26 June 2007 16:00
I`ve sent you details twice and you haven`t responded either time! Trust me, you`re not interested!
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Received : Tuesday 26 June 2007 16:08
Thanks for taking the time to send me a message, but I don`t think our profiles match. Good Luck with your search though. This is an Automated Message.
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When guys register an interest, and they are suitable then I send them a bit more info. I ask them to supply me with an email address if they are interested.

Some guys respond - great. Some guys don't - no worries.

The guys who do not respond sometimes ask again at a later date. History has taught me that it is rare for them to respond on this occasion. (I know it's only been a year and a half - but that's history in gay terms).

So I don't send out more info now. If people are interested, they respond the first time.


Received : Friday 13 July 2007 21:50
hey - can i come to ur next party???
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Sent : Saturday 14 July 2007 00:35
Hi - I`ve sent you details previously, but you did not respond.
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Received : Saturday 14 July 2007 00:37
oh shit, sorry - i definitely want to come - can u send again pls?
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Later that year ....

Received : Friday 7 September 2007 19:39
hey; hope things r good with u.
i messanged u a while age and u said i would go on the list for the next party - but i didnt hear anything about the sept 1 orgy.
can i come to the next one in oct???
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Sent : Friday 7 September 2007 19:48
Hi - I think you mistook:
'Sent : Saturday 14 July 2007 00:35 Hi - I`ve sent you details previously, but you did not respond.' for 'u said i would go on the list for the next party - but i didnt hear anything'
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Received : Friday 7 September 2007 19:49
oh whoops, my mistake. sorry. what do u reckon about me coming next time???
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It's not complicated! If you are interested, respond to any message I send you. Even if you cannot make the next one, just tell me that!


Received : Friday 29 June 2007 20:52
hey mate! i can confirm for tomorrow but still didn`t received your address!
ould you send it for me plz! thanks
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Sent : Friday 29 June 2007 20:57
I did not send you an invite. You did not respond to the message I sent.
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Received : Saturday 30 June 2007 11:40
Hi! i don`t know to which message should i respond, as far as i remember on the previous one i said i am not yet sure if i can attend!
Would be nice to have some extra fun,but if this means go trough a complicate maze as the tax office burocracy for this reason maby we are unable to sort the matter out!
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Unsociable and sexy

Sent : Saturday 13 January 2007 23:59
Most people say, ` Can I come along please` or lines to that effect.
Your lines are:

`Add me to ur list`

Followed up by:

`Yes/No`
The orgy I run is a friendly place where people have conversations as well as sex. I don`t think you would fit in.

Received : Sunday 14 January 2007 00:02

u had me on the list a while ago, and then i went away, thought u would remember, the add me to ur list was a simple reflection that i am back in town, but then u did not respond and the next msg followed.

sorry to have caused offence

Sent : Sunday 14 January 2007 00:14

I have no record of you being on the list for any of the orgies.

Sociable AND sexy?

So how do I try and ensure that the guys who attend are sociable?

I don't want to be in my own home and feel awkward with the guys there. I want to have sex with the guys and then relax and have a chat. And then have more sex - etc, etc.

I'm not succesful with all the guys. I remember at the first orgy there was a guy there who didn't seem to interact with many guys at all. In fact, he was a bit creepy - although good looking.

There are 3 things I use to gauge sociability:

Profile

This is the main thing. Does the guy have something written in their profile which portrays them as a nice guy? There are plenty of good looking guys on gaydar, but would I want to meet up with them?

Chat

I don't chat with the majority of guys - as I have said before, I am away from the computer most of the time. But if I'm here then I will chat with guys.

There are people who start with 'Hi'. I reply with 'Hi' and they don't say anything else! No, you're not coming you creepy guy.

Messages

Although I don't 'chat' with most guys - there is an exchange of messages with the guys who apply. You may have worked out from the blog that I paste these message exchanges to 'notes' to refer to in the future.

If a guy is interested then I ask them to send me an email address and I will add them to the list. Lots of guys then reply with another@hotmail.co.uk with nothing else. No 'thanks', no 'I'm looking forward to it'. As an indication of whether we will get on, I take that as a no!



It's not just for my benefit - it's for the benefit of all the guys at the orgy. It makes it more enjoyable for all and thankfully, with these completely unscientific methods, it seems to have worked to date.