Attitude

Hey there, I've been commissioned to write a piece for Attitude's sex special about orgies/sex parties etc. and wondered if you'd have five or ten minutes to chat to me to give me a bit of colour that would be great.

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Hi,

I'm (understandably/irrationally) a bit wary about talking to a magazine! I don't know if you have access to the blogs on gaydar (which are being beta tested) - but I have put a few thoughts and comments about running the orgy on there (as well as quite a bit of info on the profile itself). I'm happy for you to use any of that.

Also happy to answer any questions you may want to send me.

I have every confidence that you are genuine, but believe it or not, I have had about 5 guys saying that they are writing an article/book/magazine and can they come/discuss. So apologies for not ringing, but good luck with the article. I hope it encourages lots of people to host sex parties!

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Hey thanks for that, Oh, I'm genuine. If you look in the contributors list in the front of the mag, you'll see my name. Let me investigate the blogs etc to see what's there but if you could answer these questions that would be great:

What's the house/venue like?
Does your house get ruined in any way?
Do you know who the people who come are, in terms of jobs?
Have you ever had to ask anyone to leave?
What are the rules of the house?
What are the safe sex rules?
Are people allowed to do their own thing as far as that's concerned?
What time do they go home?
Do they stay over? Is breakfast included? ;0)
Are there drugs, drinks etc? (feel free not to specify about drugs, I get it)
What happens? Bondage? Slings? Role play? Water sports?
Who has to clean up afterwards?

Thanks for your help, and don't worry it's a very positive piece.

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Here are some answers to your questions - hopefully you can access the blog as I think it answers alot of questions. Feel free to ask anything else. Cheers

What's the house/venue like?

It's a normal size flat. When people know that there are 25-30 guys attending they always say it must be a big flat, but it isn't particularly. The lounge is a good size and it starts there, so it has to fit all those guys. Not everyone gets a seat, but it never seems to bother anyone!
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Does your house get ruined in any way?

This was always a bit of a worry to begin with, but has proved to be no problem really. I have wooden floors in most of the flat, which helps hugely in clearing up and keeping the place clean. There is a carpet in the bedroom and there are some odd stains on that - cum and lube are not easy to get out. Good preparation - packing away anything valuable, covering up sofas etc mean that I've never had any problems.
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Do you know who the people who come are, in terms of jobs?

That's a tricky one - from chatting to the guys, I know there is a range - a quick review of the profiles coming to Sat orgy gives this range:

Music industry
student/professional
Nurse
professional
student
student
creative
Music industry
management accounts
accounting
student
Travel
student
crew
professional
professional
creative
chef

Music industry, professional, student and creative seem to be popular choice! Remember that this is what people put on their profiles.
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Have you ever had to ask anyone to leave? What are the rules of the house?

I've never had to ask anyone to leave - in fact, I have been very lucky with the guys who have attended - who have been sociable and thoughtful (as well as bloody sexy!). I guess the screening process and rules have something to do with that - it really sets the tone of the orgy. I attach part of the joining instructions below:

To make things enjoyable for all I would ask you all to read the following and play your part:

Before the 31st March
• Please could you respond to this message and let me know if you intend to come by Saturday 24th Feb. I don’t mind if you can’t make it, I just want to be able to make appropriate arrangements.
• Please don’t ask to bring a friend/neighbour/relative or tell anyone the address!

On the 31st March – arrival
• I will be having a shower and cleaning my teeth before hand. Please do the same!
• Please arrive between 6.00pm and 6.30pm. I will not answer the door after 6.45pm. If you are worried about arriving late then plan to be in Islington early – there are plenty of shops and bars! (Don’t arrive pissed!)
• Press the correct buzzer, I want to keep my neighbours friendly.
• Close the door after you. This also winds up the neighbours! I am on the second floor – please knock.

On arrival
• I will be ticking you off against the list - I want to know who is in my flat!
• I will ask you to strip down to your underwear – I’ll provide a bag for you to put your clothes in. Don’t bring valuables to the party.
• I plan to have some drinks here – beer, soft drinks for people. I’m hoping it will be a friendly atmosphere as well as a sexy one. If you do want something particular to drink then please bring it with you.
• Chat to people – be nice!

During the evening
• Please don’t smoke.
• Please have safe sex – I will have condoms and lube available.
• I’m not your mother – I’m not going to police the party, I would just ask that you respect the flat and my belongings. You are welcome to go where you wish in the flat. We will start in the lounge – but if you want to use the bedroom, feel free. • If you want to use poppers then please bring your own.
• If you wish to use the shower then fine – just don’t hog the bathroom – there’s only 1 toilet.
• Clean up after you – there will be plenty of tissues around – use them.

Leaving the flat
• Feel free to leave at any time. Just close the door after you – the flat door and the front door.
• The party will finish between midnight and 2am. No offence – but I don’t want you lot hanging round all night!
• If you want to go for a drink afterwards then great – I may be up for it. There are plenty of bars nearby, including gay bars.

After the event
• After the previous orgies, I emailed the profile names of those who attended to everyone who came. You’ve seen each other naked by this time – but if you don’t want to be included in this list let me know. You never know, you may meet someone special!
• Don’t complain if you turned up after 6.45pm and couldn’t get in!!

I hope this doesn’t come across as a list of rules – as I say; my aim is for everyone to feel relaxed and have a good time.

And people have met someone special! 3 relationships that I'm aware of - 2 still going strong!
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What are the safe sex rules? Are people allowed to do their own thing as far as that's concerned?

You can see the rules above. This is a vanilla orgy - no smoking or drugs and safe sex only. I'm a pretty conventional guy - I just happen to enjoy group sex! Some guys give me grief regarding no smoking or drugs - that's fine, they can join another orgy. It's my place and I have to be comfortable with the orgy that I run - so those are the rules here.
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What time do they go home? Do they stay over? Is breakfast included? ;0)

People leave when they want - it finishes before 2am by which time I am absolutely knackered! Noone stays over - they have tried, but I really want people to go by the end of it so I can clear up and crash.
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Are there drugs, drinks etc? (feel free not to specify about drugs, I get it)

I provide beer and soft drinks, some guys bring wine or beer or whatever they want to drink. No drugs.
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What happens? Bondage? Slings? Role play? Water sports?

No, no, no and no! From the questions you are asking you seem to have an image in your mind - but I don't think it's close to what goes on here. As I said, it's vanilla, no smoking, no drugs. Some might think that is dull - but I assure you when 30 guys are naked and getting it on in my lounge, it's far from dull!
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Who has to clean up afterwards?

Me - I always get it done the night of the orgy, it would be too depressing to wake up to. The washing machine is busy for a few days after and sometimes I find condoms days later (ugh - I know).
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Thanks for your help, and don't worry it's a very positive piece.

Glad to hear it. More guys should run them. The demand really is huge - I get a huge number of requests for each orgy.