I said, 'No, no, no'

This is a conversation I had a while ago. This guy (his profile is no longer there) had been asking to come persistently.


FFF: so what are you looking for ... any clues?

FFF: like profiles...

FFF: be really curious to know how you make these judgements...

ME: Good looking, sociable guys 18-40, slim/defined/musc. Clear face pics

ME: and yes, it is judgmental = I'm sure I make many mistakes but gaydar profiles are all I have to go on

FFF: and my pictyure isnt clear...

FFF: etc, etc,

FFF: i mean if i was overweight i would understand, or ugly or anyghint...it just seems highly judgemental

ME: what do you want me to say here?

FFF: like why not come along and see...

FFF: that would be a start...

ME: you don't meet the standard of guys who come along, it's as simple and unfortunately, as brutal as that

FFF: what?

FFF: what are those standards...

ME: high!

FFF: like who?

ME: I get a huge amount of interest

FFF: give me an example...

ME: no

FFF: hmmm

FFF: well i don't believe you...

FFF: i know guys who go to orgies and none of them are as you may describe as high...

ME: well that's fine - we both leave happy!

FFF: is there any othe way to be...

FFF: im just curioius to know who these high standards are...

FFF: but i suspect its aobut fuelling your ego...

FFF: and hiding some deepseated inseurity...

FFF: that's alll

ME: does that mean you'll stop applying?

FFF: nope.!

FFF: why should i

FFF: if it fuels your ego...thats good...

ME: thanks!

FFF: so what is your name...

ME: you can call me islingtonorgy

FFF: hahah...

FFF: so what are the entry criteria...

ME: there really aren't any more that I'm hiding

ME: if someone doesn't have safe sex - always then I don't invite

FFF: but you don't know what type of sex I have...

ME: anything 'odd' isn't good, this is a vanilla orgy

FFF: sounds cool to me...

ME: no - but it has to be safe on the profile

FFF: so what makes you think I don't do vanilla

ME: i'm sure you do

FFF: so tell me more about your judgemental processes...

ME: i'm not referring to you - I'm just relaying my general thoughts when looking at an applicant

FFF: I mean I'm curious...

FFF: two people tonight have said Im cute...

ME: you are at the higher age range of the criteria - the guys who come tend to be 'guy next door' sort of look

ME: at my imaginary orgy

FFF: yet you preside over people in an arrogant manner that is bordering on the offensive...

FFF: meaning???

ME: sorry - just trying to answer your qs

FFF: well im still curious...

FFF: i cant be much less ordinary or boy next door than anyone else...

FFF: i work in islington.

FFF: im from london

FFF: and people find me attractive...

FFF: so how come you don't invite me?

FFF: whats the other ingredient others have that I dont?

ME: what do you want me to say that doesn't make me come across as 'arrogant'?!

FFF: well it doesnt sit comfortably with the truth...

FFF: you could say super big dicks...

FFF: or blue eyes...

FFF: or drugs

FFF: or what ever...

FFF: but you make out this is an orgy for cute ordinary people which is how others see me...

ME: you are confident in yourself and that is fantastic - but your looks aren't for everyone (as mine are not to everyone elses)

FFF: and say im not one...

FFF: well as I say its all about your ego...

FFF: and you probably enjoy saying no..as much as having sex...

ME: no

FFF: so why do you persist?

FFF: anyway I gotta go now...

FFF: talk soon...

FFF: bye now

FFF: you can message me with an invite