All inclusive

I try to create an atmosphere which is friendly and inclusive. I know that it can be a little nerve wracking for guys attending and so I aim to ensure no-one feels excluded.

If someone looks a little left out or uncomfortable once the orgy starts, I always feel a bit concerned. I have learnt not to stress too much about individuals - as it can impact on my enjoyment of the evening. Everyone here is an adult and can look after themselves.

Therefore I look for profiles which seem to be inclusive. This is an orgy - if your profile is so specific about a type or a fetish then this is not the place for you. As I've said before, the best guys who come throw themselves into the experience wholeheartedly with all the other guys who are here.

A profile which was ideal in every other respect had a (quite vitriolic) rant against Americans. No Americans. All of them! This is an orgy with guys from all over the world. How can I invite someone who excludes a segment of the guys here based on their nationality?

Sent : Thursday 26 April 2007 22:50 Hey, I was very much enjoying your profile, but I have guys from the US attending and the bit on Americans sat uneasily with me (would you not consider it racist?)

Received : Thursday 26 April 2007 22:51 lol...not at all...good luck...

There are quite a number of profiles which indicate preferences with respect to race - prefer caucasians, latino, asian, black etc. But when a profile says 'no caucasian, asian, black' - does it make sense for me to invite them if I know that there is a mix of these guys at the orgy?

I saw a profile which said that if you specifically say 'no asians' then you are excluding the largest population of guys on the planet. Based on their ethnicity.

I chatted about this with some friends and they thought I was being over sensitive and PC. They agreed that sexual preference is diverse and cannot be regarded as racist. 'I like Chinese guys , I just don't fancy them.'

I'm not so sure. I send out the list of profiles to guys who have attended after the orgy. How would I feel if one of the profiles specifically said they did not like Scottish guys (ah - that's why they avoided me all night!).

I shall return to this theme. I have a couple more things to say about my efforts to get a perfectly integrated orgy.

P.S. If you don't like the French, then don't apply for this orgy. They're taking over! ;)