Tell me why

I dread the question, 'Could you tell me why you've turned me down?' It's often followed by the promise, 'Tell me honestly, I won't be annoyed.'

This is a tricky question to answer. I really don't want to offend anyone. In fact I try to be polite at all times, what ever the provocation. So how do you answer this question?!

When there is an obvious reason I will give it e.g. if the profile does not have safe sex always, has no detail on their profile or no face pics. There are also times when I really don't think the guy would enjoy it - if they seem to be into a 'scene' that isn't reflected in this orgy. (Guys in rubber masks will sometimes respond to this with, 'I like vanilla too')

However, it is often the case that the guy just doesn't meet the standard of the guys who come. How do you say that politely? You will see from the post 'I said no, no, no' that sometimes I do say this - but only if pushed. More often I don't respond to the question. I'm not being rude, I'm trying not to be rude!

No-one has ever asked why they have been chosen!