The 'rules'

I have some basic rules and criteria that I use to evaluate a profile and decide whether I send them an invite. I am quite rigid with these rules and don't let my cock rule my head when making decisions.

I know that I can come across as completely inflexible, but that's because I am!

DT: How do I compare?

DT: hi by the way!

hi

DT: hello

ok - I only invite profiles with safe sex always. Soz

DT: wait a sec

DT: my profile doesn't have a safe sex bit

DT: my pal helped me set this up

DT: u mean I have to write in my profile that I only do safe sex? Its not a sex profile so I didnt think I would have to put that....

DT: well thanx for the indepth chat...dont think i would want to risk myself going to a strnagers place anyway if he cant even chat for a few minutes

there's not alot I can say. I have politely said no and explained why

DT: I understand, I just don't see what I am getting turned down 4

DT: if its my looksyou can just say..

If you read my profile or blog you will see that safe sex is something I insist on

DT: Only if I wrote I only do safe sex on my profile it wouldnt really fit in with my profile

As part of your 'personal information' there is a safe sex option

you have not filled that in as always

DT: oh ok..well that's easy to explain..i didnt know it was an option

DT: im hardly gonna go to a group sex for the first time and not use a condom! lol

DT: but I see yr point

DT: (sorry kinda learning as I go along)

ok, no worries - but as you said yourself, I am inviting strangers

and so have to have some sort of handle on them from their profile

DT: thats ok i wont hassle you

DT: I am just annoyed i missed out coz of summit I didnt know I could do

DT: my mate set it up I just sat there nodding (in a daze)

DT: out of interest ... would I have got turned down anyway?

DT: be honest

DT: then I will leave you alone

your age range is a little out of sync with 18-40, but your profile reads well and you are good looking

DT: well I prefer 35 max really

DT: but thankyou for the compliment

DT: Well since you wont invite me ...if you were me .. where would u go now to try and get an invite to a safe party?

ah, i'm not sure - you could have a look in group room

DT: yeh its kinda scary lol

DT: think maybe i am not cut out for this b4 I even get to try lol

DT: I am much better in person than at this cyber ...

DT: well thanx for talking to me

DT: can I ak onemore thing ... how does it start?

DT: I mean is it not awkward at the beginning?

if you read the blog, I have a couple of entries on that point!

DT: i did read it

DT: (boy u are just waiting to tell me off huh lol)

20/5-27/5 archive Twister

DT: wow

DT: well .. if you change your mind and want to give me a chance

DT: and help a lad fulfill a fantasy please let me know

DT: I am genuine

DT: hope you can see that maybe a little in my profile

i know, I just have to stick to my 'rules'. It's nothing personal

DT: what if I found a way to put this thing you want in my profile?

DT: (I can ring my friend)

I get that alot

DT: well you have to be fair..the rules are harsh for a new lad trying to learn!

I appreciate that you are new to the profile - but I see it as so important that I can't imagine not having it on the profile

you must have seen it on other peoples

DT: I honestly didn't know it was an option

DT: never noticed, I may be gullible but I didn't think that was something people would NEED to point out

if someone has 'rather not say' or 'sometimes' or 'never', i would not meet them (in real life or in orgy)

DT: always thought genuine people did safe sex

DT: I agree...

you'd be surprised

DT: I am now!

if you read the Attitude article on orgies, you will seethat alot have unsafe sex

DT: hell no

DT: Id be out the door b4 I took off my coat!

DT: well, I am not sure what I can say .. kinda hoped you would maybe notice in sum way I would be a good genuine person to have along .. anf not punish me totally for that little error (always was crap at filling in forms)

DT: OH FOUND IT

DT: HORRAY

DT: Now how is your memory and can we start again?

soz, I know I can come across as harsh/brusque but I have to be

DT: tis true u do a bit

It has worked well for me and resulted in the orgies that I want (and others seem to enjoy)

DT: i am just playing

so I'm going to stick to the (slightly harsh) formula

DT: sounds like u have a great set up

DT: really?

DT: ......

yes

DT: well guess I wasn't yr type at all then huh lol .. cant believe ive been turned down

DT: coz u think I may be unsafe

DT: ME ... and this was gonna be the most risky thing i have ever done

DT: how ironic

:)

DT: the one time I actually try and do summit risky

DT: I get turned down coz of a profile box

DT: when you could get proper men, who are positive or unclean just tick that box (coz they know gaydar better than me) and they get invited

proper men?

DT: sorry i meant .. positive lol

DT: told u this cyber was new to me

DT: (this is my longest msn chat ever)

DT: lol

haha, well I'm afraid I need to go now

DT: k



He changed his profile to safe sex 'always' during our conversation. He has now removed this and is looking for 1-1 sex with nothing on the safe sex bit. I guess he's now learnt how to update his profile to reflect what he wants.

I'm going to stick to the rules. The guys who are invited can be sure that I have not compromised on the quality or standards that have made the orgy a success to date.