True lies

Hello, I've read some bits of your blog and found it interesting and, to be honest, a little bit - I can't quite think of the right word - dishonest I suppose. You devote quite a lot of space to describing the reaction from disgruntled refuseniks to your parties. Are you sure you don't get some sort of gratification from dishing out the red cards and then recording the angry response in such detail? I may of course be quite wrong and talking bollocks, in which case please accept my apologies in advance! x

Is the blog dishonest? It's an interesting question - an aspect of which I have been thinking about recently.

In terms of the information and the messages/conversations that I relay here, it is completely honest. I do edit slightly the information to protect identities of individuals.

Do I try to provoke a response in order to document it? No, I try to turn people down politely in messages or in chat. I do use a 'standard' message when turning down guys:
Hey, thanks for message - you don't quite fit what we're looking for, sorry. No offence meant, hope none taken.
Not the most fluent of messages, but I'm really not trying to upset people and I still feel guilty turning them down. (Now I have posted this, I suppose I may as well use the standard turn down message - but I've come to realise that a huge number of guys applying have not actually read the blog.)

This is a fairly innocuous message, but not impolite - therefore the rude responses that I receive would always amaze me - which was one of the reasons that I decided to start a blog (it's not something I can share openly with others!). I learnt to see the funny side of the responses, and hoped that others would too.

In the conversations that I have posted here, you will notice that after I have said 'no', I don't really say that much - I get alot of messages and try to deal with each quickly. However I do answer peoples questions - I don't like to ignore people.

I admit that there are times when I can be brusque (I call it business like - others have called it rude), this is only when people are being deliberately obtuse or time wasting.

However - do the conversations and messages that I post here represent the interactions that I have with the vast majority of guys? Definitely not. And in that respect, the blog probably is dishonest.
It may give the impression that organising this orgy is a constant world of strife. It's not.
The vast majority of guys I turn down don't respond rudely - in fact many are very understanding. I have amusing conversations with guys, interesting exchanges and regular banter. There are lots of great guys on gaydar and I have alot of fun in talking to these guys and hosting the orgy.

So that's what I have been thinking about - should I reflect the high points more in the blog? I shall try.
The trouble is, the messages that I have been receiving from people have been commenting that the conversations/messages are the most amusing bits (rather than my random thoughts), which is why I have been reflecting these in the blog recently.

Readers thoughts are welcome!