What's your flava?

Someone posted a comment asking what my definition of 'vanilla' is.


It's a good question and one that I get asked quite a bit. It's one of those phrases that you assume everyone knows, but this isn't the case. Additionally, the word seems to mean different things to different people.

So what does it mean with respect to Islingtonorgy?

A search on the internet defines 'vanilla sex' as what a culture regards as standard or conventional sexual behaviour. Hmm, I'm on rocky ground already, as I don't think a gay orgy is really regarded as coventional sexual behaviour (yet).

Wikipedia acknowledges that different cultures, subcultures, and individuals have different ideas about what constitutes this type of sex. And I think the sort of sex that happens here is fairly conventional in gay circles. Sucking, wanking, kissing, fucking, frottage (look it up - nothing to do with cheese).

Double penetration, spit roasting, bukkake (cumming on a guys face) and (what do you call it when someone is fucking a guy who is fucking another guy - is it a bus queue?) are things that also happen here.

I saw a guy take a guy's load in his mouth and then he snogged (I love the word snog) the guy who came in his mouth - sharing the cum between them. The guy was a bit surprised - the look on his face was hysterical. Apparently that's a snowball!

What Islingtonorgy is not about is BDSM (bondage/discipline/dominance/submission/sadism/masochism). It's not about leather or slings or pain or blood or piss or shit. And it's not about bareback.

Islingtonorgy is also about having a fun time - talking to guys, having a drink, having a laugh and keeping my flat clean :-)

Vanilla may be my sexual preference, but if you're buying me a cornet then Phish food and rocky road are my vices.